Romance 101 For Men

Romance 101So, I found several relationship articles by the same guy, and I just love how he writes about the topic.

He’s to the point, and really gets his ideas across in a language guys can understand.

The latest one I read was on how to romance a woman. Here’s a quote from the article:

Imagine your pride and joy is a Harley Davidson that you have been restoring. You look at her every time you walk past her. You buy her the best lube you can get your hands on. You think about her often… When you are out riding her, you notice the slightest change in the purr of the engine and investigate immediately to see if something needs attention. So why did you notice a gradual souring of your wife’s mood several months ago and just let it go un-dealt with?

See what I mean? His articles make total sense to both men and women. For all you women out there who feel like the roman got lost along the way, print the article and make your guy read it. I know my husband will be reading this article very, very soon!

~Jane

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Mismatched Sex Drives

Sexless MarriageIf you are married or in a long term relationship, you may have noticed that over the years, sex starts to dwindle. A lot of guys take notice of this and mistakenly think that their wives just don’t want sex anymore. Then they are shocked when those wives have an affair.

The problem with a lot of sexless marriages is not always a medical one. Many times, they are simple problems. And many times, they are problems that the man can fix himself.

There are many reasons (I’ll exclude medical reasons here) a wife might not want sex from her husband any longer, or seems to want it less and less.

Resentment is a huge issue. So is lack of romance, one or both partners letting their appearance slip away, to much control by one partner (usually the man), and many other reasons. I found a great article that goes into this exact phenomenon in great detail. The intro is a little long, but it’s a really interesting read once you get into it.

Here’s a quote from the article, regarding resentment in a marriage.

It is as if at the start of marriage, the woman opens a sexual bank account for her man and puts a certain amount of sexual currency in there to get him started. Every time he acts despicably in her eyes, she makes sure to mark down his balance accordingly. At first, she will extend a small overdraft when he hits zero. But after a few years, the bank informs him that they no longer do overdrafts on this type of account. Once he hits zero, he can’t expect sex very often.

So if you are a guy, wondering why you’re getting sex less and less, this article is a great place to start. Let me know what you think!

~Jane

Every Man’s Fantasy

Two Girls And A GuyIs it just me, or does every man fantasize about being with two women?

Even my own husband has asked me if I would consider bringing another woman into the bedroom.

While the jury is still out on my decision, I often wonder what it is about that particular fantasy that makes it such a universal one?

I don’t think I’ve ever met a man who would say, “eh, that’s not really for me. Thanks anyway.”

Perhaps it’s the thrill of watching two women pleasure each other, or maybe it’s the idea of having two women pleasuring the guy.  But why two? Why not 4 or 6 or 8?

Is it more intimate with 2? Or is it just that most men stop at two because it’s tough enough to get that many in bed at one time, without trying to add more?

I’ll keep you posted on my decision. For now, I’d love to hear from those of you who have tried it, or can shed some light on this mystery for me.

~Jane