Premature Ejaculation Exercises

Premature EjaculationWho knew!!??? There are exercises you can do if you tend to cum to soon. And guess what. This works, not only for both men and women, but can also work if your problem is the opposite issue. And it’s so easy!

A lot of it has to do with controlled breathing. I’ve read a few different articles on this, and almost all of them recommend controlling your breathing.

  • The less you breath, the more intense things will feel, and the quicker you will cum (Just please don’t hold it so long you pass out. It’s kind of a mood-killer).
  • The more you breath, the less intense things will feel, and you will last longer (This is not your cue to hyperventilate. Don’t breath so hard you get dizzy instead of horny).

Of course, it’s not always that simple for the guys. If you are a guy reading this, there is a really specific exercise you can do. Read this article. It should help tremendously.

Just remember, it’s all about controlling your breathing. Being in control of your breath, is being in control of your orgasm. It may be a bit distracting at first, but with practice, you’ll get the hang of it.



Cameras In The Bedroom?

Sex TapesWe’ve all heard the news stories about celebrities who have had their sex tapes leaked to the press. It always gets me wondering… how many people actually bring a camera into their bedroom?

While I’ve never tried it myself (I think I’d die of laughter watching myself) I do get the turn-on. I totally understand it. It’s a completely safe way to be an exhibitionist. You can show off, be a porn star for a few hours, and have proof once you’re finished. Something to remember. A souvenir.

Personally, I don’t think I could ever do it simply because I’d be to worried that it would be used against me some day. After all, if we’ve learned nothing else from all those news stories, those sex tapes, always get into the hands of the wrong person. And frankly, that’s just my luck lately.

I’d make a sex tape, and somehow, it would end up in the offertory bowl at church, which would then be mistaken for a children’s bible story movie, and would be played in front of the entire congregation. So I think I’ll pass on this one.

But I must admit, the idea is intriguing…


Butt, Butt, Butt…

ButtWhat ever happened to the days of Wrangler Butts? Is it just me, or has the “junk in the trunk” taken a back seat to other body parts lately?

Well, I’m here to say that I am a staunch admirer of a nice rear view. There’s nothing like a man who looks as good leaving as he does walking towards you. It’s one of the many things us women can enjoy about our men.

A nice butt is a work of art. Round and plump yet muscular and strong. The kind of butt that says “I could go all night long, baby”.

I’m sure there are a lot of men out there who love a nice toosh on a woman as well. I mean, lets face it. A butt is one of the few body parts that looks better with clothes on than with them off (Most of the time. Sometimes you just have to admire a butt without the coverage.).

So on your way to work (or the store, or wherever) today, stand up and take notice of the wonderful array of nice rear ends walking down the street. You’d be amazed at how many nice ones there are if you take the time to look.


The Art Of Seduction

The Art Of SeductionIf you want to really turn your partner on and make them want you, there’s an art to it that you really have to learn, if it doesn’t come naturally. It’s the art of seduction. For each person, this “art” will be just slightly different. After all, there really are no rules to art. Right?

Seduction is an art like poetry or dance. Its intent is to make a person feel unsatisfied–unsatisfied until he (or she) can have you.


The trick is to get inside your partner’s head. Find out what turns them on. Then do those things *subtly*. I could be wrong here, but I believe that the key word here is subtle. There’s nothing sexy about blatantly trying to get somebody to be turned on by you. The trick is all in way you do it.

For men and women, seduction has a lot to do with what we perceive we can’t have. It’s also a very individual thing. I know for me personally, I love to feel pursued. Not in a “stalker” kind of way, but in a “I-know-what-I-want-and-I-want-you” sort of way. Again, the trick is to get inside the persons head. Tease them a bit, and then slowly let their own desires take over. With a little bit of practice, you’ll have it down in no time.

Generally speaking, I believe that seduction involves a little of “taking your time”, and a whole lot of teasing.

What do you do to seduce your lover?


5 Rules For Sensual Massage

Sensual MassageI was a massage therapist for 16 years. So I know a lot about massage. But the one avenue I never explored (with my husband, of course, not clients.), was sensual massage.

If you are a guy reading this, please note, that there is a HUGE difference between a regular massage, and a sensual one. A regular massage therapist will NEVER “go there” during a massage. So don’t even try, not matter how cute she is. Tip her well, and be on your way.

But if you want to learn some techniques for an evening in with your partner, there are 5 rules of sensual massage I’ve discovered.

The #1 rule of sensual massage is to make the non-sexual aspect of it last as long as possible. Sensual massage is all about “the tease”. It’s the anticipation of sexual gratification. The build up.

While it’s great to get really close to “those areas”, you should always stop just short of actually rubbing any erotic spots. Save that for the end. Teasing and tantalizing is what you’re going for here. Make him/her beg for it!

#2. Choose your oils carefully. A warming oil can be wonderfully erotic. You can pick up a bottle for cheap at your local drug store next to the condoms (usually).

If you choose a scented oil, be sure the scent isn’t to strong. Be sure to actually open the bottle and smell the oil before you buy it. Nothing kills the mood quicker than a bottle of oil that smells more like your stinky gym socks than the Cardamom Lily scent promised to you on the label.

Stay away from the really floral scents. They get annoying after smelling them for a while. If you must have a scented oil and can’t find one you like, purchase an unscented one, and add your own essential oil or perfume/cologne. Choosing a scent together is a great way to start the anticipation of the evening to come, and assures that you will enjoy the evening with a scent you can both tolerate.

#3. Use long, gentle strokes. Save the deep tissue massage for another day. This is all about turning your lover on.

#4.Use the flat of your hands. Don’t bother with finger tips. Keep full contact between your palms and your sweetie’s body at all times. Let your fingers mold over the curves as you go, but always keep the entirety of your palms in contact.

If you need a little more guidance than this, there is a great book and DVD set that teaches you how to do this type of massage. The Art of Sensual Massage (Book and DVD Set) It’s $34.95 + shipping for the set, or you can get just the book for $13.57  here –>The Art of Sensual Massage.

#5. Be sure that you have the floor well protected with a sheet (that you don’t mind getting stained with oil), and that any and all candles are well out of the way. You don’t want to knock a candle into a puddle of oil while you’re getting frisky. Not a good thing…. trust me. ~grin~

Let me know if these tips work for you!


How To Get In The Mood When You’re Not

Getting In The MoodGetting into the mood for sex isn’t always as easy as it sounds. If you’ve had a hard day, or things are going wrong, most of us chickidees just don’t go looking for sex as a result. We tend to just want to curl up in bed and go to sleep.

If HSDD is not your problem, then chances are you’re just a bit down and out and need a little help getting in the mood. 

What are some sure fire ways to do that?

My #1 pick is a bubble bath. Especially if you light some candles to set around the tub. There’s just something about being naked by candle light that really does the trick. Plus, it helps you relax enough after a long day to be able to set your day aside and enjoy the task at hand.

#2. Exchange massages. Very few things are as sensual as a nice massage. Just be sure you make it very clear that it’s massage ONLY until you’ve relaxed enough to get in the mood. Because when you’re not in the mood, somebody copping a feel just doesn’t make for a relaxing massage.

If you’re not sure where to start where massage is concerned, check out this book: The Art of Sensual Massage. Only $13.57 + Shipping from

#3. Work out. I know this sound contradictory to getting in the mood, but really, it’s a great solution. You’ll fee attractive when you’re done, and the endorphins will kick in. You’ll be relaxed, and after a quick shower, you’ll be much more likely to be in the mood.

What little tricks do you use to get in the mood?



FetishThere are so many fetishes out there. Some are relatively minor and some go to very exaggerated extremes. While I can’t possibly go into every fetish there is, my goal with this post is to give you general information on what some of the fetishes are.

According to, there are three types of fetishes:

  1. Media: The type of material or the way something feels is what’s obsessed over. Media fetishes include silk, feathers, fur, or leather.
  2. Form: The shape of the object is what’s important here. Long, skinny stiletto heels, knee-high boots, and flowy lingerie fall into this category.
  3. Animate: These types of fetishes have anything to do with human body parts. That includes breasts, buns, bellies, necks, hair, etc.

But then there are also the S&M type of fetishes. Fetishes where people like to experience a certain amount of pain or restraint during sex. Examples are:

The thing with fetishes is this: No fetish is bad, and just because the neighbors dog barking sends you into lustful fantasies, doesn’t mean you’re a complete perv.

But if your fetishes are hurting you or somebody else, or if they are somehow effecting your daily life or the daily life of another person, you most likely want to seek help. You definitly need help if your fetishes involve children or animals.

However, if it’s just you and your fetishes having a grand ol’ time and not hurting so much as a flea, then have at it! Fetishes can be fun, and they can certainly spice things up in the bedroom (or anywhere else you may be!).