Talking To Teens About S-e-x

While most adults agree  that teens are not ready for sex, the truth is, they are having it. Whether we want them to or not, it is a decision that you just cannot make for them.

You can give them the tools to make the correct decision, but in the end, the decision really is theirs. No matter how closely you watch them, if they really want to find a way, they will. They are teens after all.

So what responsibilities does that leave us parents with? How can we help our kids to make the right decision? What tools can we give them to make a more informed and educated decision?

It all starts at home, folks. You can’t expect your kids to make a good decision if you haven’t talked to them about it. And I don’t mean the “I-really-don’t-want-to-be-talking-about-this” “I’m-so-embarrassed-I’m-red-in-the-face” conversation. I mean straight talk about the responsibilities of sex. If they don’t hear it from you, where do you think they are going to get their information from? I’ll tell you. Friends, TV, friends, movies, friends, magazines…. and did I mention friends?

Talk to your kids. Plan out the conversation. Take notes if you have to. But talk to them. Even if they are the ones that end up red in the face, they WILL hear you. Even if they pretended not to. Don’t give them the choice to eek out of the conversation. It’s to important.

I know there are those of you who just cannot bring yourselves to talk to your kids about this. If that is the case, find another way to get them the information they need. One great way is a DVD called “Sex still has a price tag” featuring Pam Stenzel. There is a Christian version as well as a Public School Version. As of the date of this post, Amazon is out of stock, but you can purchase the book “Sex Has a Price Tag ” for $9.99. I guarantee your teen will read anything with the word “sex” in it. Just leave it on their bed while they’re at school. I believe the book has a Christian slant, which may or may not appeal to you.

If a DVD would be more effective, I believe you can get a copy at Pam Stenzel’s web site.

Either way you do it, PLEASE! Talk to your kids about sex. They will get the information one way or the other. Wouldn’t it be better if the information came from you?

~Jane

Teen Sex and Breakfast?

Teen Sex and BreakfastThere was a recent study done in Japan on teen sex in correlation with eating breakfast. They found that teens who skip their morning meal, are more likely to become sexually active at a younger age.

Does this mean if your teen skips a meal occasionally that they will loose their virginity at 12 years old? Probably not. But regularly skipping breakfast does seem to have some impact.

Although, the article does go on to say that kids who skip breakfast will typically also have other “family issues” going on in the house. Family lifestyle has a lot to do with this issue

“An appropriately regulated lifestyle may be making some people prudent about sexual activities.”

Is it the only factor? No. But you better believe my little guy won’t be skipping his morning meal any time soon.

~Jane