Protecting Your Kids From Perverts

Protecting Kids From PervertsLet’s face it. They’re out there. Those disgusting predators that would just love to get their filthy hands on your child.

So how do you protect your kids?

The first thing is to be sure your kids know what to do when approached by a stranger. This can be a little tougher with boys than with girls. Girls have a natural apprehension about strangers. Boys tend to want to act tough, especially when surrounded by friends. So approaching a stranger can be a “test of their manhood” even at a young age. So talk to your kids. Roll-play with them so they know what to do in any given situation.

The second thing you can do is to educate yourself. Find out where these perverts live. Know how safe your neighborhood is or isn’t. Web sites like http://www.familywatchdog.us/ can really give you a good idea of what you are dealing with locally.

The third thing you can do is get your neighborhood together. Be sure you are all watching out for each others kids. Don’t send a neighbor’s child home by him or herself, and ask that your neighbors do the same. There’s safety in numbers.

What have you done to protect your kids? Please share your comments. Everyone can benefit if we all stick together and share ideas.

~Jane

Talking To Teens About S-e-x

While most adults agree  that teens are not ready for sex, the truth is, they are having it. Whether we want them to or not, it is a decision that you just cannot make for them.

You can give them the tools to make the correct decision, but in the end, the decision really is theirs. No matter how closely you watch them, if they really want to find a way, they will. They are teens after all.

So what responsibilities does that leave us parents with? How can we help our kids to make the right decision? What tools can we give them to make a more informed and educated decision?

It all starts at home, folks. You can’t expect your kids to make a good decision if you haven’t talked to them about it. And I don’t mean the “I-really-don’t-want-to-be-talking-about-this” “I’m-so-embarrassed-I’m-red-in-the-face” conversation. I mean straight talk about the responsibilities of sex. If they don’t hear it from you, where do you think they are going to get their information from? I’ll tell you. Friends, TV, friends, movies, friends, magazines…. and did I mention friends?

Talk to your kids. Plan out the conversation. Take notes if you have to. But talk to them. Even if they are the ones that end up red in the face, they WILL hear you. Even if they pretended not to. Don’t give them the choice to eek out of the conversation. It’s to important.

I know there are those of you who just cannot bring yourselves to talk to your kids about this. If that is the case, find another way to get them the information they need. One great way is a DVD called “Sex still has a price tag” featuring Pam Stenzel. There is a Christian version as well as a Public School Version. As of the date of this post, Amazon is out of stock, but you can purchase the book “Sex Has a Price Tag ” for $9.99. I guarantee your teen will read anything with the word “sex” in it. Just leave it on their bed while they’re at school. I believe the book has a Christian slant, which may or may not appeal to you.

If a DVD would be more effective, I believe you can get a copy at Pam Stenzel’s web site.

Either way you do it, PLEASE! Talk to your kids about sex. They will get the information one way or the other. Wouldn’t it be better if the information came from you?

~Jane