Butt, Butt, Butt…

ButtWhat ever happened to the days of Wrangler Butts? Is it just me, or has the “junk in the trunk” taken a back seat to other body parts lately?

Well, I’m here to say that I am a staunch admirer of a nice rear view. There’s nothing like a man who looks as good leaving as he does walking towards you. It’s one of the many things us women can enjoy about our men.

A nice butt is a work of art. Round and plump yet muscular and strong. The kind of butt that says “I could go all night long, baby”.

I’m sure there are a lot of men out there who love a nice toosh on a woman as well. I mean, lets face it. A butt is one of the few body parts that looks better with clothes on than with them off (Most of the time. Sometimes you just have to admire a butt without the coverage.).

So on your way to work (or the store, or wherever) today, stand up and take notice of the wonderful array of nice rear ends walking down the street. You’d be amazed at how many nice ones there are if you take the time to look.

~Jane

5 Rules For Sensual Massage

Sensual MassageI was a massage therapist for 16 years. So I know a lot about massage. But the one avenue I never explored (with my husband, of course, not clients.), was sensual massage.

If you are a guy reading this, please note, that there is a HUGE difference between a regular massage, and a sensual one. A regular massage therapist will NEVER “go there” during a massage. So don’t even try, not matter how cute she is. Tip her well, and be on your way.

But if you want to learn some techniques for an evening in with your partner, there are 5 rules of sensual massage I’ve discovered.

The #1 rule of sensual massage is to make the non-sexual aspect of it last as long as possible. Sensual massage is all about “the tease”. It’s the anticipation of sexual gratification. The build up.

While it’s great to get really close to “those areas”, you should always stop just short of actually rubbing any erotic spots. Save that for the end. Teasing and tantalizing is what you’re going for here. Make him/her beg for it!

#2. Choose your oils carefully. A warming oil can be wonderfully erotic. You can pick up a bottle for cheap at your local drug store next to the condoms (usually).

If you choose a scented oil, be sure the scent isn’t to strong. Be sure to actually open the bottle and smell the oil before you buy it. Nothing kills the mood quicker than a bottle of oil that smells more like your stinky gym socks than the Cardamom Lily scent promised to you on the label.

Stay away from the really floral scents. They get annoying after smelling them for a while. If you must have a scented oil and can’t find one you like, purchase an unscented one, and add your own essential oil or perfume/cologne. Choosing a scent together is a great way to start the anticipation of the evening to come, and assures that you will enjoy the evening with a scent you can both tolerate.

#3. Use long, gentle strokes. Save the deep tissue massage for another day. This is all about turning your lover on.

#4.Use the flat of your hands. Don’t bother with finger tips. Keep full contact between your palms and your sweetie’s body at all times. Let your fingers mold over the curves as you go, but always keep the entirety of your palms in contact.

If you need a little more guidance than this, there is a great book and DVD set that teaches you how to do this type of massage. The Art of Sensual Massage (Book and DVD Set) It’s $34.95 + shipping for the set, or you can get just the book for $13.57  here –>The Art of Sensual Massage.

#5. Be sure that you have the floor well protected with a sheet (that you don’t mind getting stained with oil), and that any and all candles are well out of the way. You don’t want to knock a candle into a puddle of oil while you’re getting frisky. Not a good thing…. trust me. ~grin~

Let me know if these tips work for you!

~Jane

How To Get In The Mood When You’re Not

Getting In The MoodGetting into the mood for sex isn’t always as easy as it sounds. If you’ve had a hard day, or things are going wrong, most of us chickidees just don’t go looking for sex as a result. We tend to just want to curl up in bed and go to sleep.

If HSDD is not your problem, then chances are you’re just a bit down and out and need a little help getting in the mood. 

What are some sure fire ways to do that?

My #1 pick is a bubble bath. Especially if you light some candles to set around the tub. There’s just something about being naked by candle light that really does the trick. Plus, it helps you relax enough after a long day to be able to set your day aside and enjoy the task at hand.

#2. Exchange massages. Very few things are as sensual as a nice massage. Just be sure you make it very clear that it’s massage ONLY until you’ve relaxed enough to get in the mood. Because when you’re not in the mood, somebody copping a feel just doesn’t make for a relaxing massage.

If you’re not sure where to start where massage is concerned, check out this book: The Art of Sensual Massage. Only $13.57 + Shipping from Amazon.com

#3. Work out. I know this sound contradictory to getting in the mood, but really, it’s a great solution. You’ll fee attractive when you’re done, and the endorphins will kick in. You’ll be relaxed, and after a quick shower, you’ll be much more likely to be in the mood.

What little tricks do you use to get in the mood?

~Jane