Mismatched Sex Drives

Sexless MarriageIf you are married or in a long term relationship, you may have noticed that over the years, sex starts to dwindle. A lot of guys take notice of this and mistakenly think that their wives just don’t want sex anymore. Then they are shocked when those wives have an affair.

The problem with a lot of sexless marriages is not always a medical one. Many times, they are simple problems. And many times, they are problems that the man can fix himself.

There are many reasons (I’ll exclude medical reasons here) a wife might not want sex from her husband any longer, or seems to want it less and less.

Resentment is a huge issue. So is lack of romance, one or both partners letting their appearance slip away, to much control by one partner (usually the man), and many other reasons. I found a great article that goes into this exact phenomenon in great detail. The intro is a little long, but it’s a really interesting read once you get into it.

Here’s a quote from the article, regarding resentment in a marriage.

It is as if at the start of marriage, the woman opens a sexual bank account for her man and puts a certain amount of sexual currency in there to get him started. Every time he acts despicably in her eyes, she makes sure to mark down his balance accordingly. At first, she will extend a small overdraft when he hits zero. But after a few years, the bank informs him that they no longer do overdrafts on this type of account. Once he hits zero, he can’t expect sex very often.

So if you are a guy, wondering why you’re getting sex less and less, this article is a great place to start. Let me know what you think!

~Jane

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